I’m an introverted extrovert. That’s a thing, right? If left to my own devices, I prefer to stay home as long as there are adequate supplies of coffee, good snacks, a good book, and reruns of Fixer Upper.
I always have fun when I go out. I laugh, tell jokes, and get energized by being with my friends and their families. It just takes a lot of self pap-talk to get me there.
That’s why it’s vital for someone like me to have that friend who makes social events happen. The one who texts and says “We need a girls’ weekend. Check out these two dates and tell me which works best. Here are 3 Air bnbs, which one do you like?” Um, was that a question or a command? I’m so thankful though, because without that friend, it would just never happen.
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Another key factor is having a supportive partner. Check. I’m so thankful to have a supportive spouse. Now, I’m not talking about asking for permission, that’s not really what a partnership is. But knowing when your partner needs a break and trying to figure out how to make that happen is greater than any gift money can buy.
Lastly, to really put the spark on a girls’ weekend, you have to be in the right state of mind. For me it’s a moderate level of frustration with work, kids, laundry and life. Not complete frustration, because if you leave in melt-down mode you may never come back. But I’ve figured out my threshold where I’m simply overwhelmed and need a break. Maybe that’s 2 hours by myself to go to the gym or to Target without a budget (wouldn’t that be glorious??). But on occasion, I need a little more.
This Spring I had the perfect trifecta. The business of spring was in full-force and I was approaching that threshold. A good friend reached out, probably in a similar state of mind, and said, “hey, let’s do this.” The spouse was on board.
It wasn’t a weekend trip to Vegas. There were no sandy beaches or endless ocean skylines. But there was a cute bungalow in the historic district of French Lick, Indiana during mid-week when we basically had the town to ourselves.
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And there was conversation. Good conversation. The kind where you start talking about all the frustrations, quirks, and shortcomings in your life as a wife and mom only to find out that your friends experience the exact same thing and you’re not alone.
There was also Hulu binges, a nice meal we didn’t cook, good wine, charcuterie boards, and laughter at how no one really knows how to pronounce “charcuterie.” And goats.
The trip ended and I felt refreshed. I left Saturday morning to meet the rest of my family at a baseball tournament. My husband and kids were late. Something was left at home. I could feel it creeping in… that sense of frustration that nothing ever seems to go right. Except, it stopped. I kicked those feelings aside. Who cares? No one died. Everyone slept in a warm bed last night and has food in their belly this morning. I get to watch my 8-year-old play the sport he loves while the others play with their friends, without a care in the world. Life is good.
The short trip away literally reset my mind. And I think we all need that. Sometimes it just takes a break with some good, like-minded friends to remind me we’re all in this together.